Yes, feeling really alone. I’m really touched you posted this video tonight when so many need it. Thank you and Happy New Year Dr. Ramani! Hoping to be able to make one of your programs!
Thanks to you I’m moving forward
Happy new 2020 to you too!
Took back my life, no narcs. Quiet night. . Happy
Hope you had a lovely and warm christmas and wonderful new year! Thank you Dr. Ramani for your great insight and advice! It is imensely apreciated and was truly a blessing for me in 2019. Cheers to 2020!
I WILL NOT TEXT…I DID NOT TEXT…But they did, roping me in with happy memory talk, and wanting to still be friends… I ignored. And I'm so proud of myself. Thank you so much for all your help Dr Ramani xox
I can never be narcissist-free, among my relatives. My New Years Eve Story for 2019 was Mom going over her well rehearsed stories that denegrade the people I love, including one parent of my origins. Yet, it's not even necessary to love a parent of origins in order to feel personally assaulted from hearing him denegrated. He is, after-all, a parent of origin. So any assault on him is an assault on me. This is why I, on the other hand, had learned through the school of hard knocks, to relay the good within the, however, absent character of a paternal-narcissist for my own daughter. When we denegrade a parent of origin we degrade the identity of his or her child. But it was clear to me that my mother was doing this, quite deliberately, to me in her monologuing to her friends. Her usual story, too, is that her own mother (whom she praises to the hilt for praising her, throughout her life) was disappointed in her, only once, for marrying my father. My mother would, also, make it a point to denegrade the grand-aunt (on my father's side) who had rescued me, for a time, from her, when I had run away from home by age almost twenty. Mom has religiously denegraded her to any significant-other of mine; although, not as oftentimes now that she's deceased. Dad & Mom like to humiliate me in front of relatives in other ways too (publicly & privately). Some of it may be out of ignorance; although, it comes from a place of shame-based narcissism. Some of it is quite deliberate, though. No one is complimented by hearing put-downs by comparison of loved ones. This is diabolical triangulation. When it's out of ignorance, I find that explaining to the narcissists in my life that these comments were degrading, hurtful, and dangerous to my relationship(s), the parent(s) were, then, seemingly-willing to modify their own thoughts & behaviors, toward me. Yet, the years and years it took off my life by keeping me an angry person, made me realize that this disease of narcissism is severely contagious. Now, I have passed this influence on by examples of toxicity (CPTSD) to my own daughter–my world. The buck stops there, though. She refuses to raise children. She won't reproduce or adopt. From the things I've heard, it's a good idea not to get attached to young children; unless of course, we already have them in our lives.
I will not get back with my ex narcissist forever! Bow! Broke up 1134pm before 2020, still sad but im gonna make it i know i can!
I cried all night like never before. I told my toxic individual that because of him I consider ending my life.. And he had no reaction pretty much. He said he was shocked but he didn't call me, he didn't sent video, he didn't say a word to calm me down or make me feel better… I told him he is the devil.. This new year he promised to come and visit me. He didn't. He broke every important promise he ha e ever given. Have any of your cried their eyes out this new year…. I don't know how to deal with the heartache. Its the worst I ha e ever felt.. I wonder do I blow this out of proportion just cos I'm too sensitive? But I feel like someone who says he love me won't say I say stupid things and make myself looking like "idiot".. And when I am saying how broken he made me he won't have any reasonable reaction.. If I was him and someone tell me that almost consider drying cos of me I would turn the world around to make sure he is OK…
Wow! 2020 here we come! Sounds Good!!
Thank you dr. Ramani and a very happy and healthy 2020 everybody! I did text my narc who recently became my ex. At this point we still share a house together, I 'moved out'. It was a text message to block the letterbox/ front door. I kept it short and… wished him a blessed new year. 😶 I want to act normal, but I ment it too. How stupid. I felt such a loser when he wrote back at 17:00 hr he forgot to think about it himself (I knew that of course; I was his normal functioning brain) and was already at a party. Right… of course he is. The party I had to avoid this year, to stay home and celebrate new years eve with our dog and my lovely, but alcohol-free mother. I hate to avoid everything I shared with him to stay strong. But later I thought about this party and the memories came up. At these party's where we never spended time together, always with our own friends there. So who do I miss really? My friends I think.I did'nt respond right away, cause I don't want to look at it all the time. A half hour later he texted me that he was going home to block the letterbox and he wished me a happy new year as well.I saw both message the same time and I thanked him.Don't know how to feel now. I am going to his (exhausting) narc-grandmother today (she was mine too for 20 years) and she probably suck me dry. But I love her and won't stay long. This year I will skip my bordernarc sister and her narcissistic family after a christmass from hell. What a year it was.. This thought alone can only make 2020 over the top fantastic! With love
How about being ignored… while you know this is grandiose for them. My way of taking my year back is enjoying my freedom while it lasts. No judgement about my every decision. I'm feeling healthy and good.
Happy New Year Dr. Ramani and thank you for everything. It was a tough one last night. Split with narc 2 months ago after 11 years.
To take my mind off the split and keep my mind occupied I booked some flights to Vietnam 3 days after the split, spent last 2 months prepping and leave on Monday, on my own for a month travelling bottom to top by bike. Can’t wait! By the time I get back, it’ll be a case of ‘narc who?’ 😆 or that’s the plan at least.
Today is the first of January 2020. Happy New Year doctor Ramani and to everyone in this beautyful growing community! Last night I was really tempted to send a text to my toxic ex, but I pushed through and I didn't!!! And I am really happy that I had a backbone to stuck to my guns! ☺️☺️☺️Let's indeed make this year a narc free year. Gentle hugs! ❤️
After almost 60 years of dealing with narcissists from childhood to a repetition compulsion of finding one narc after another I am finally FREE! 2020 is going to be different than I have lived before!
I wrote and told him I am finished with him 2 weeks before Christmas. since then he has not left me alone with constant phone calls, leaving nasty messages on phone, knocking on my door. All the while not responding to him. So on new years eve my 45 year old son came to see me and I was telling him all about it. My son knows him for the 10 years I have been with him and my son has always told me, I could do better. Then the phone rings and I see his number and I tell my it is him, on goes the answer machine, nasty message, telling me to answer the phone, then my son phones him back and tells him to leave me alone, if he does not stop harassing me he will be very sorry. I have not heared a sound out of my narc ex since then . I have had a peaceful new years. Last year one was hell. Free at last, thanks big son.
I met my estranged husband 2 years ago today, January 1, 2018. He mirrored me beautifully and the only person there for me ~ overseas ~ as I dealt with a life saving hysterectomy. I had no one ~ we “fell in love” and I went to East Germany.
Once he saw that my family didn’t even care where I was ~ he beat me senseless; at the end it was daily. I have a 10 year restraining order against him (as he followed me to America after I escaped.) he wanted to Sex traffick me. He broke my legs, etc.That’s E Germany. No one would help it went on 7 months
He now lives with a prostitute about 5 hours from me. She is half my age with an arrest record a mile long. Last night he sent me pictures of a ring on his left hand (he wouldn’t wear one with me) I just laughed. It’s so amateur now that I’m standing back. He used to call me a whore ~ constantly. I find it amazing who he ends up with. An actual prostitute.
I’m not going to contact him again. I’ll wait until someone calls a lawyer or I do it myself. Two days ago ~ I received 800 messages in the space of 5 hours. Telling me to commit suicide, and laughing at me for being beaten and raped……Someone messed up and I saw that it was a group. They laughed at me for not being able to have kids (which I was 41 when I got the surgery, I wasn’t planning on it) it’s no mystery he thinks I’m unstable enough to kill myself….. and this is what he does?
2020 I wanna be like I never met this person. File the paperwork and let him live off a prostitute. Good riddance ~ my mother pays his phone; I want a restraining order on that witch too. …. she called me a whore for not coming to Christmas Dinner and there is no family here. Our family is dead in the water.
Good riddance and hello to ANYTHiNG healthier than that!! Hope everyone else here weathers this storm and walks out a healthier , happier person. I was very depressed since Christmas. 2020 is something I think is gonna be okay.Truly my wish for everyone battling these demons….. be blessed and highly favored. You are really better off on the walk. ❤️
My narc ex. Cheated on me in 2018, kill the Night in 2019, But this year, I was alone. Best night ever 🥳🍾🥂✨🥳 2020 my year !!! ❤️
My Narc texted me at 6:45AM to meet me after his supply probably fell asleep. Just ignored the text and woke up, went to two yoga classes and feeling fabulous. Is never to late to take your grace and power back! One of the best things is to move your body <3
‘I will not text’.
Thank you very much for the great advice, happy new year 🥳
I WILL NOT TEXT MY EX NARC.
I did not text nor call my NARC.. I literally threw a New Yrs party for my aunts, uncles and cousins.
My mom's Narc sister was calling on new years. I just pushed her away ( didn't pick up her call ) and my mother agreed ( she didn't gave in ). Its kind of work for both me and my mom to handle embedded people ( who aren't going anywhere ) in our lives. But hey we are seeing progress. 2019 was a better year we were able to understand whats happening ( aha moments ) + how I and My Mom are going to handle it. We made a few changes and BAM !! i see results ( saving our precious occasions from toxicity, keeping vulnerabilities discreet, bringing in rational people around narc ). But toxic people are still lingering around, sniffing, hitting hard on what has worked for them in past. While 2018-2019 was a good start, I promise in 2020 me n my mom we are gonna smash it. Happy New Year !! everyone and thanks dr.ramani for everything
Last night I had dinner with my narcissist. LolOnly to be able to see with 2020 vision that he was full of….😆
I was so happy I saw it. Dont regret it one bit.Narc free 2020
How do you break the trauma bonds? I keep going back, and I don’t want to anymore.
🎉🎉🎉Happy New Year Dr. Ramani!🎉🎉🎉 Thank you so much for the guidance and education you provided last year to the world of good folks who were victimized by narcissists. Thanks in part to your amazingly awesome super-duper kind efforts, narcissists will no longer be able to influence us this year. 🥰😍😘💖💖💖
Currently recovering from my Narc Ex boyfriend. Happened to replace me 3 weeks after our separation (despite being together for 1 year and 7 months). He probably saw/interacting with her before the discard. I will not text/call/message/email/stalk his social media.
I Lost opportunities to catch up with friends and participate in new things in my life. Taking my power pack from him while he deals with the new supply. ✌🏻
Thank you so much Dr. Ramani and happy New Year! I have just discovered that the man I have been on and off with since 1992 is a narcissist. I feel angry, ashamed, shocked and liberated all at the same time. It’s surreal and hard to wrap my head around. Your videos have been so very helpful, I’ve spent every waking hour since Friday night watching them.
My New Year Eve story- He and I are at a romantic dinner in Napa. There is tension out of no where. He’s a bit flirty with the waitress. The countdown begins and I’m looking forward to my midnight kiss. He is scanning the dining room 4, 3, 2 we all stand up 1 Happy New Year! I move toward him. He turns, grabs the waitress and kisses her while I watch, hurt, embarrassed and confused.
After the death of my father in October I’ve walked away from my family: a narc mother and her enablers/flying monkeys/the golden child etc. I’m never going back; I’ve blocked all of them on social media, removed addresses etc from my phone and contacts so I can’t be tempted. Plus I’ve blocked all their numbers on my phone. If it weren’t for you Dr Ramani, I would still be wondering if it was me and trying to fix stuff with some of them. The funny thing is that since I did this and told some very long standing friends they have said they always knew my mother had serious mental health issues and how relieved they are that I’ve taken this step. 2020 seems like a good year to start healing from 50 years of narc abuse.
Andrew Robert Michaels in Phoenix, Arizona
Thank you so much for your encouragement 🥰🙏🏼 – lets say it like this: 2019: Thank you for all lessons – 2020: I am ready!!!! To set boundaries, to have realistic expectations and most if all : To be me !!! Happy new Year to you and all people in the community 💕🍀🌺
Hi Dr. Ramani! Can you do a video that specifically goes out to family and friends who just think that you need to "come to the table" and "work it out" and "move forward" and "let go of the past"?
Maybe especially for those of us with narcissistic parents. I try to explain to people that:1. I'm not mad at my mom, and my lack of contact is not me punishing her.
2. I'm no contact so that I can stop being abused… That's it. I am almost forty, and I am tired of being beat up emotionally, because it never stops!
3. Not only am I not mad, but if she could actually change, I would be in her life again instantly. A healthy relationship with my mom would be awesome!
It's so hard for people to understand this. I'd love something that I could just send them. You explain things do well! This has been my first holiday season of no contact, and it's been really hard because the smear campaign has been in full effect 😭.
Dr Ramani, I love your videos and manor and you are so easy to listen to and understand ( m favourite on narcissism 😍😁😁
First Christmas and NewYears without the NARC…… the feeling is indescribable….. #stillNoContact #96 days #breatheBetter #stressfree #noJudgment… #NoGaslighting…
Thank you Dr Ramani. You help me so much to recover after a breakup with a manipulative person. I am not sure whether he was actually a narcissist but for sure a skilled manipulator that was almost always able to make me feel guilty. It's been three months. I am still healing. I am still suffering, still confused cause the break up happened when I finally exploded and called him on his BS. I was brutally honest and he didn't expect it from me cause I was always the one that would calm him down, soothe his nerves, always there for him. He broke up with me and I sometimes feel guilty. It hurts physically and emotionally very much but I hope I will heal … Happy New Year !
Finally narc free at 58 better late than never! I’m thankful and appreciative to have finally learned this life lesson. I have given up my happiness and peace of mind for over 30 years! I’m free and feel strongly that it’s never to late to start your life over.
Last night, New Years Eve… was the first year in 30 years together that I went to bed early and did not go out or stay up to celebrate and babysit him and him being drunk. I'm done! Thank You Doctor Ramani for all of you videos, oh my goodness THANK YOU!!!
My brother is a narcissist, i've been tolerating him since birth.
i got narc free in 2019 already. thank you so much for helping me with your videos and happy new year for you too. <3
New Year’s Eve 2000, narc and I were at a sleepover house party, dinner and brunch the following day. When the Horsd’oeuvres were served, I ate some goat cheese. Narc doesn’t like goat cheese😱. We were only together five years at the time, and I had no understanding of the cycle. As soon as I ate the goat cheese, narc said, ominously, “You ate goat cheese.”,. A silent treatment ensued throughout the evening, overnight, into the next day, on the long drive home, and for the next whole week. She was the life of the party as she completely ignored me. It takes me a long time to learn, but I finally did. I left 3 weeks ago after she’s been with someone else for 18 months. Went to a party last night. Enjoyed the goat cheese very much. Even so, I was very tempted to text, but did not.
I messed up.. I drunk called my ex narcissist on New Years night, while he was in bed with his new supply 🤦🏽♀️ 😂😂
New year’s eve he is fucking someone else . And he knows I know it .
Dr Ramini, can you recommend a narcissist psychologist in Johannesburg?
Blissfully Narc-free!Thank you Dr. Ramani and all of the proffesionals that shed light onto this precarious phenomenon!!
This sounds like a good idea. 2020 narcissist free.
<3 this, brought the trash to the curb 3weeks ago. Told him I was not going into 2020 with any ties to the past… 🙂 New decade, new life.. Bye bye, don't let the door hit you on the way out..
I had a little gathering back at mine .New years Eve..A guy was at mine he was dominating the group but left after I was too peaceful and I think he wanted a debate with everyone .but how funny .he found some of my post and started saying he knows everything about me and said my surname and gave me a hug and left .when he went everyone was relieved and said he was wierd and I knew he was a narcsisist .but they hadn't been watching the vids .I thought thank God that Ive watched these vids ..Happy New year to you all .This is going to be a narc free year yee pee xxx xxxx
I got out of a narc relationship two months in thanks to Doctor Ramani. The love bomb was literally insane. She was telling me things like "shes been searching for me in many past lives". When I confronted her about problems or concerns she turned it around on me or gaslighted me. She also threatened to hurt herself when I broke it off to reel me back in. I blocked her on everything and won't be going back. Thank you so much Doctor Ramani you saved my life.
So Hard to Hear this Great information. Can you increase the Volume some, THQ !!!!
Happy New Year Dr. Ramani I've been in isolation for about 2 years….a friend asked me last night when am I going to put myself back in the dating pool? I'm 55 …I replied I'm done…I don't really feel done – I would like to meet someone as a life partner to the end of this ride….but as a empathic person I scare I am just going to find another narc…could you kindly make a video on how to get out of isolation…lol thank you
Oh Dr. Ramani, I am weeping whil watching this! THANK YOU THANK YOU. I made it through the new year. It is January 2, 2020 today and I am STRUGGLING WITH THE TEMPTATION to call him and wish him a Happy New Year. The compulsion is sooooo strong…
Happy new year! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I was discarded for the third and final time on December 21st. He tossed all my belongings on the front lawn after accusing me of cheating. I’m done. I did everything for him. I had lost myself in the process. I’m working on myself and keeping busy. I went to an awesome New Year Eve party attended by interesting professionals.
3 months clear of my physically and emotionally abusive alcoholic Narcissist Ex Boyfriend. This time last year (New Year Day) he got blind drunk and started an argument over what food we were going to cook. Then he packed a bag and stormed out leaving me on my own, then gave me silent treatment for 3 days. I'd done nothing wrong. So glad to be rid of him and his crazy bullshit. Now 3 months after i had the strength to finally leave him he is shacked up with the woman that i was "crazy" and "paranoid" to suggest was more than just his friend. I was right all along. Hes her problem now. Good luck to everyone dealing with anyone like this, my advice would be just leave, pull the plaster off. I look back in shame that i put up with it for so long. Now im so excited for 2020 and what it may bring.
Love to you all over the world from the UK x
Dear Dr. Ramani, you are amazing. I'm a new subbie (subscribed a few days ago) so I haven't had the time to watch all your videos, but judging from the ones I've watched, you provided amazing information and precious advice to those who are dealing with a narcissist. Thank you so much for such an amazing insight into the personality of that kind of people. Let me ask you something: since narcissists will never acknowledge the awful things they do to other people, would it be wrong to think that there's no cure for them? Have a wonderful 2020 by the way!
I think my tenant is a narcissist. I am a sucker for a sad story and got sucked in when she viewed the property. Rent is always late until I remind her. Im accused of harassment if I remind her to pay rent. She is extremely entitled and think its her divine right to live rent free. How should I tackle this?
Its 3rd January and already I get silent treatment for asking him is this year going to be crap free as last 8 have been with his narc behaviour . Which led into a strop by him. He sits waiting for my grovelling an sorry master . Yawn same old .You cant polish a turd …..
Dr. Ramani, the problem is that I spent so long focusing on his needs and once that I honestly don't know what I want anymore!
Love your podcasts ! ❤️
May 2020 bring clear 20/20 vision and clearer revelation of WHO you truly are and WHAT you truly deserve ! ❤️
Had a visit from my ex mother in law whom I love. I spent most of the visit in tears bc she and I were close. She has no idea how awful the abuse was. And I don’t think I could ever bring myself to tell her. The lying, cheating, physical, mental abuse was so out of control. I wanted to text him that day and was in such a state of confusion. I am lonely and had only been thinking about the good times not all of the times he physically, verbally and mentally assaulted me. I have made it through and am looking forward to a new year. Thanks for the video
I’m looking forward thank you!
Wish I watched this sooner!! Totally caved after going no contact and wished him happy new year – he then cries (I’ve never seen him cry in all the years of dating) and says he realizes I’m the one and how he’s so sorry for all the things he did to me over the years and how he’s been depressed just realizing he lost me and all the women he’s been seeing come up short. Ugh. Well long story short, the hoovering kinda worked then I found out one day later that he was with his new supply on NYE (even tho he pretended he was alone at home) and that he’s still seeing her! Texting her goodmorming from my bed.
Fuck these fuckers.
“The future can be quite hopeful as long as you don’t put your hope on the narcissist”thank you. No contact thus far – hoping to remain strong
Boundaries are a good thing. Funny how a narcissist can suck you into a disingenuous conversation. Beware the narcissist. Happy New Year.
Hey everyone, hope you had a great New Year start! I do have a question, and I do know the answer but I just wanna confirm. Can a narcissist be extremely socially awkward, anxious and incompetent? On the morning of January 1st I got into a huge fight with a "friend" who was horribly abusive and I have always thought of him as a narcissist with terrible social skills, can this be the case?
Ps: Dr. Ramani, I love your videos, you really do an amazing job at explaining such a complex type of behaivor in such an entertaining and accesible way.
Need help. Is there a way I can contact you?
Love this. Thank you. I have hope one day I will be free from this.
Happy new year doctor Ramani, I love you thank you
A very happy new year to you as well Dr. Ramani !! Thank you for all these amazing videos!
I have gone no contact with two awful narcissists in my life one is a family member and the other is an ex. Its nearly a full year since I went no contact with my ex. Your videos really helped me keep away from them both especially my abusive ex boyfriend. You gave me the strength to stay away thank you ❤
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I feel like isolated and lonely 🙁 .. I got to fight hard to ignore the phone calls and text him
One New Year's I'd just started dating this gorgeous hunky jewelry/watch salesman that I'd felt so lucky to be with. We hadn't talked about what we'd do until the day before so he told me to plan something. Restaurants were pretty booked so the only place was a fancy pizza place. We were at the table and he just scowled. "What's THIS? Everyone knows New Year's is the holiday for couples! This is NOTHING" And continued to lay into me about how awful that place was. I was in tears at the table with people looking at us. The waiter just gave me this compassionate look. He really got off on making me cry, and I forget what I did but he was in a better mood after making me feel so inferior. I stayed with him two years. I got him to go to therapy but after a while I just got so sick of him. And in spite of his studly physique he was a dud in the bedroom and he regularly rejected my advances. I'd just had a really successful art show and had alot of money saved up and people all over the world wanting my jewelry but I set it all aside to build a relationship with him. I stalked him cuz I know women were gushing all over him at work. I spent most nights with him. When I'd finally broken up w him my savings almost gone and I was $11 K I'm credit card debt. I was raised by narcs and so I sabotaged my finances too. That's as almost 20 years ago and it still hurts alot. And I paid for that New Year's dinner, too.
I DID NOT CONTACT MY EX OR MY FAMILY NARCISSIST! I went and helped an old friend that is having some hard times.
Wow, thank you. I truly believe in your words. You're such an intelligent, assertive, wise woman. I love you.💗
2020 is my year without narcissists!!
Dr. Ramani! Thank you so much for your videos!
Happy New Year to you! Yes, I made a New Year resolution to divorce. I never had a nice New Year's Eve with him, never in 11 stinking years of marriage. So he was served with divorce papers Christmas Eve day! I never had a nice Christmas Day with him either, so it seemed fitting to me 🤔. He's living in my house, glad I never put his name on the title. The house is in a Special Needs Trust for my autistic son. 😇. Thank you so much!
My now ex narcissist didn’t celebrate big. As a matter of fact he made me cancel my trip to spend time with family on Christmas and after canceling he left me high and dry on Christmas Day alone. He just said it’s not an important day. It’s just like any other dayNew Year’s Eve I insisted I would not stay home alone and he promised to be here but I knew he’d leave me dry again and it was just a ploy to have me cancel my meeting with my friends. He enjoyed seeing me suffer, cry, alone, and always asking him why he treats me that way. My pain was his joy and my success his pain. So he did everything in his power to manipulate guilt trip and sabotage any good or advancement I had coming. 2020 only 2days Narc free but loving it because I prepared for this day like my life depended on it.
Thank you so much! I am at this place now! I am ready to leave my narcissist. Living apart from myself is not how I can love anymore.
Lol😂 …20/20 vision!… Lol😂 that's what Dr. Ramani did to me… i saw the truth that it's not me but my narc husband. these videos made me free and built my confidence again. Thank you Doctor …may God bless you more.My biggest mistake was i let him disrespect me… not anymore… i learned boundaries now from you doctor. I love you doctor.😍🤸♀️🎉🎊
Hi Dr. Ramani…..you have no idea how much you have changed my life, so a huge thank you! Still working on things and trying to heal. I am hoping that you will be addressing that…how to heal after 35 years of having a friend who has NPD. Also, I notice that I am hypersensitive to people being a narcissist and I’m afraid I’m getting too jaded. What are your recommendations on that? Thank you for all you do and I so look forward to watching more of your videos. Happy New Year!🎊🎈🎆
Hi Dr. Ramani, God Bless you, you are helping so many people including me. Please do a video on the elderly narcissist and narcissist siblings that have the expectation of just one (me) family member providing physical care for the elderly narcissist.
Thank you so much for these harsh truths
I will stay away from all narcissist relationship or not I'm sickened by the whole thing I plan on going to never have normal relationship I feel that I'm too I'm too much for some people and some people are too much for me I have bipolar 2 and personality disorder I find that nobody really wants to hang out with me the ones that do you want me are sick in the head as well I tried to date a schizophrenic and I spent 20 years plus with a narcissist and every 6 to 9 months my mother will come in buy astora give us all these things and then tell us that we're good enough she doesn't want us around she wants us to leave her alone because once again we are around her whatever
By chance I feel broken hold on not worthy of a man in a relationship hi I'm scared of what kind of person I am cuz I'm bipolar 2 and I have personality disorder and I feel like damaged goods and how I do really want me
This new year, He tried calling me, his friend texted me that he's going through hell and he needs me but I still didn't respond. I felt so bad, so hurt for ignoring him.. I hope he does well. I'm not gonna talk to him ever in my life.
My narc husband always would start fight over something petty, On New Year’s Eve
Wow what a video. I literally broke up with my boyfriend on NYE a few days ago. I realized I was going to be continuing to be hurt for another year and I refused. I've never followed through with ending it in the past, but now I feel confident and ready to move forward.
So many around me it's totally distroying me. Great advice
Dr. Ramani, you helped me through 2019! Thank you! I could tell you all about my story but it would be too long…is there is a forum to write about it in more depth? If so, I would love to! Much love and happy 2020! 💛✌️
I wish I had watched this on New Year’s Eve. 🥺
broke with toxic relationship on new year.
happy nuuuu narc 2020
I saw New Year in with a very small group, one narcissist who started fights with the rest of us right after midnight. I went to bed fairly quickly to the sound of her and her partner fighting. Terrible way to see in a new year. I have not seen her since and normally would have a couple of times by now. I am ebbing off the phone calls and giving her the grey rock. It was the almost enough final straw which was finally pushed to its edge in a handful of phone calls where her toxic ambitions were in full flight. She has left my whole excited new year experience with a poisoned well that I am dredging and cleaning without her in it.
New Year’s Eve 2016 was a nightmare! He made preparations for the evening extremely complicated! Everything I did was wrong. He was extremely grumpy and had a terrible attitude. I was sooo hurt and frustrated because I had NO idea what the issue was. We went to a party and the ENTIRE time he was comparing how he looked with how other men looked in their burgundy velvet jackets. He even saw some other men in other colors and started planning for future NYE parties. He practically ignored me watching other couples and how they were dressed and other women who were scantily clothed. It was my first and last NYE with him! The relationship took an awful turn for the worse and I fled! It was the worst relationship EVER! But I’m so glad I experienced it, because I’ve learned so much about narcissism . I’ve been in 3 relationships with 3 narcissist and now I can stop all of the things that kept me from real love with a human.
I mindfully went no-contact with the narc in my life. Fifteen years on, I realize there's still work to be done. My tendency to take on other people's 'deferred responsibilities' is now in clear focus. Time to create some more boundaries–against my own tendencies, not others'.
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